Dramatic Planet Blog

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

Certainly at one time or another we have thought to ourselves, “How did I get here?” This question usually comes at a time when we may have done something wrong, or at a point in life where we are not pleased with the a particular outcome. Sometimes, yes, sometimes if we are really fortunate this question comes at a time when something is going incredibly good. “How did I get here”, may be a result of all the things we have done right despite ourselves which bring us to a good place.

Success is always built on many failures, and the diligence of trudging on even though all else says to stop. The lofty goals we set are hard to reach and cause most to stop short of the mark. Energy, enthusiasm, funds, and the like will prevent us from continuing on. Another factor that will pull us to give up can be those around us whom do not encourage, but rather discourage because of their own fears, or jealous nature. Situations like these can be hard to see as we press onward in a sense of agony hoping there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

Good results come as a never ending battle to do the right thing and press on no matter what others say. Good results come from the belief there can be a better future, a real destination, and an understanding that it all will happen. Yes, the good results come from finding that small spark inside which brings a smile to ones face screaming, “I can go on!”

The very smile that one project’s is seen by others, and they do remember it and who it belonged to. Certainly the achievements may not happen when we want them to, and can very well take much longer than anyone else likes, however they will as long as we keep the smile and move forward.

In the balance of the struggles and successes is experience, and knowledge which should be shared to help others. In fact it is exactly those things that provide perspective to for us to recognize and help others who are struggling to move forward as well. The higher we climb the easier it is to help others get there too. It will be at that time we can ask again, “How did I get here?” and enjoy the moment whilst others are enjoying it too.

http://www.cnn.com/2010/TECH/innovation/06/04/foursquare.dennis.crowley/index.html?hpt=C2

www.degorsky.com

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

I’d rather be seen than heard some say, and yet others would say I ‘d rather be heard than seen. So what actually is the difference? What one says and does is the stage, and to set aside the difference is very interesting.

If I should say something would I really mean it? It may be more of words over action. When I say something, what really matters is if one can count on it being my word. That someone can believe that what is said is meant and can be trusted. “My word is my bond.” This very statement in the past was a contract that could be counted on. In todays world it appears that words may be merely words and nothing more. That a word is just a word and cannot be always trusted. Interesting though, that since we are using text messages more often, that our words might just need to mean a bit more. In fact, if it is in writing it must be so. Maybe our word just might become our bond again.

If I should do something does it really matter? Actions don’t always count some believe, that it’s just doing nothing more. An action not to be taken seriously, not to be truly intended. Once actions meant more than anything else, that what one does really mattered, and would count as being more than what was said. “Actions speak more than words.” More and more today our actions are not to be taken seriously, though it is interesting considering reality TV that we are viewing what others are doing. It appears that with some shows, we really want to be taken seriously as a potential future star. Maybe our actions are real to be taken as something that does matter a lot.

It may be best served to mean what we say and do. This way when the time comes that it really matters others will believe what we say and do, and trust that we meant it. One never knows who is really watching to bring us to the next level.

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

Have you ever asked yourself the question, “What defines me”? It certainly is an interesting thought. Some would potentially answer the question with a quick, “well it’s my job”, or “certainly my hair and clothes, my look of course.” What is it that you say?

To find ones own definition does require a bit more that a quick thought, more so it would be one that is sought over a bit of time. Pondering, and chewing on the idea is best. After some thought one could make a simple list on paper so that it can be seen and in some way digested. Viewing what our own thoughts of definition and then asking the question to oneself again in a bit different way, “Is this what defines me”? Once these thoughts are viewed and pondered again, it may be easier to boil them down to a few simple statements.

Since we all have a tendency to sit in judgment of one another, and if one dares, to ask another what they think defines them. For instance asking a family member, “What do you think defines me”? Have a paper and pencil handy, you may discover much more that you want. Certainly others perceptions may suggest what we portray of ourselves to others.

In short, what defines us is often what we feel is most important in our lives, and is what others see about ourselves. At least, to those who really see us.

What defines me? Well, I hope it is my smile that is encouraging others to smile as well. No matter where we are, and what we are doing, we should never forget to smile. We are alive.

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

I noticed a number of years ago when I was visiting a fast food restaurant that there were some people who treated the person behind the counter with little respect. It seemed that they had little appreciation for what the person was doing for them. In fact it seemed like they looked down on the person for the position they held, like “you’re just a looser working a looser job” not very important. The way these individuals behaved really bothered me. There is no reason why we shouldn’t teach or show our children, or even others that no matter what the person does, they fill a very important part of life. To appreciate what others do no matter what. As time went on it seemed like I was witnessing many people treating others with little respect who apparently weren’t holding the job of CEO, or movie star. No matter who we are, one never knows what life has in store for us.

Well needless to say times have changed and it seems that what goes around comes around. With so many out of work, loosing their cars and homes, even having their relationships hanging by a thread because of the stress the current economy brings, how we view a job appears to be very different. I see many willing to do just about any kind of job just to make some money and pay a few bills. What may have appeared to be a demeaning job now is, “I’ll take it” without hesitation. Moreover, youngsters of parents who held very important positions in the past now are relegated to taking on jobs like janitor, or bus boy. We’re seeing that all jobs are important and should be respected.

The person who cleans the bathroom has a very important job. Yes, no one really wants to do it, but it really needs to be done, and done very well. In order to pay respect to those who perform jobs we don’t want to do, and make our lives easier we should just sincerely say, “Thank You.” Providing a cash tip certainly helps too since we could all use an extra buck or two, however, saying thank you to someone, smiling at them, and really meaning you appreciate what they do goes a long, long way. Please do keep this in mind, it just might be you on the other side.

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

As almost everyone knows the passing of Michael Jackson the singer passed away suddenly. A tragedy yes, a dramatic moment most assuredly, but who really killed the pop star? Was it the medical industry? Was it the media? Was is his fans? Was it himself, or his debt?

No one may really know for certain, though I would say most of these things. One’s own perception of their own self, what one thinks others believe about them, can be very destructive. It causes all of us to react, or not react in certain ways. Imagine being Michael Jackson and trying to live up to everyone’s expectation. That alone would be crushing to most people.

How many of us change something about ourself because of being teased as a kid, or thinking that it is a bad trait? Wearing something because we believe someone will find us more attractive, or less offensive. Certainly we say to ourself, “No, I wouldn’t do that!” But really we do. It is as simple as our sunglasses to make ourself look cool. Most of this reaction pretty much comes from our development years, wanting to be accepted. Wanting to be accepted by our parents, peers, a girl, a boy, or even some one we admire. Certainly being teased, or picked on stimulates the response. Certainly media, and advertising doesn’t tone the development of the need down either. Wanting to be noticed, not picked on, teased, or being attractive to get ahead in life is too alluring and strong. We all fall for it.

Now imagine being a super star on the verge of public collapse, with the potential need to come back and live up to everyones expectation. The worlds eyes on you. I’m pretty certain anyone of us would not last for long under that kind of pressure. Imagine how you would deal with it physically, and mentally?

Yes, every time we put on a face, or get that one thing we have to have to comfort our own needs, in some small way we are killing a pop star. Just remember to battle our own thoughts of what others think about us ~ who we are really is always somewhere in the middle of what we think about ourself, and what others think about us. We’re pretty much in the middle.

- special thanks to one of our readers (Michael) for suggesting we right about this

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

Reaching out beyond one’s comfort zone can be a bit like jumping off a cliff. Maybe some would say not as dramatic, however, others would say even more. When it comes to life and love reaching out can be a very difficult thing to do, especially when one has experienced hurt, and rejection. No matter what the level of pain is that holds us back it is always important to keep reaching out.

I applaud those to go beyond and love again. Exposing oneself to one more potential rejection, one more painful goodbye is a tough fall to overcome. Certainly though, the greatest expression of life . . . is to love again.

It is sometimes said that there is only one who vibrates to the tune the another does. One true connection, one true soul mate. This may be hard to say if this saying is exactly true since we all experience change in our lives. We may meet, be together, and change entirely again, therefore vibrating at a whole new tune. It is this point that should be kept in mind, that there are others out there who do, and want to love, and is why to persevere.

What makes love so incredible is that it has a tendency to heal old wounds. Love provides new exciting feelings that well up from within and cover a multitude of pain, even replacing old wounds entirely.

Obviously a new relationship should not be used to replace a current difficult one. Any difficult situation should be worked on to get back in tune and feel the excitement once more. It is simply achieved by calm communication.

Opening up, exposing the heart, and loving again is an incredible feat to achieve especially when internal pain and emotional distress can very well be the result. Love, true love, the ultimate connection that brings a rush of incredible feeling to the fore front, heals all, and connects one to the true meaning of life. Love is not a bad thing. In fact, love is the closest experience to perfection one can have, as long as it is from the heart.

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

Do you ever feel like the leaves are falling in Spring, a time when growth is abound?

It is a statement that even though one should be looking up to the new elements growing around us, something seems to seep in and hold us back from the joy we should be feeling. Mostly we do know what those things are that hold us back, but how does one let it go? One could say to just refocus our energy into something new, like a kitten or puppy. Okay maybe not that drastic.

Letting go is something that can be rather challenging. Mostly we don’t want to let go, it may just feel more comfortable to hold on. Sometimes, it is the fear of the void it will leave behind. No matter, it is change, or no change, and often the no change leads to illness of some sort.

So what does letting go look like? It should look like gradual steps. Rather than one huge drop, little steps or a gradual process is better, and reduces impact, or big void deficit. It may just look like every time the thought comes into the mind, holding on to an image, or picture of something totally new will redirect the thought. It could be an actual print, or something that is kept nearby. For example: letting go of lets say, an old pet that had passed. Print out a picture of an ocean scene and look at it, unless the pet liked surfing, which will cause this image not to work. If the pet did not like surfing, and the ocean scene brings happy thoughts, the mind will slowly let go of the previous thought, and begin to heal. It’s like retraining our thoughts to something new. It may take time, but again change is better than standing still and letting the pigeons have their way.

Sometimes, rarely though, some things will come back to us. In this event of holding onto a dream, or something similar, it is okay to hang on, but if the negative out weighs the good, it might be the best idea to let it go - in gradual steps of course.

Cheers to a new Spring, and life anew!

return to blog - www.dramaticplanet.com/wp

Is it better to have loved, than never to have loved at all? This is a fine question that was coined by someone long ago, and actually is from the following:

From Alfred Lord Tennyson’s poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

This truly is a wonderful craft of words, which several questions, or many thought arise. Is it better to expose ourselves to heartfelt pain, rather than to protect ourselves? My thoughts fall to the former, to expose and take risks rather than not truly feel. Life is so much more when it is lived, pain included.

Often we may hold onto our shroud that covers us. The thinly lit wall that protects us from others fully intruding into our innermost sanctum of love. Love is the hidden gem laying beneath an intricate weaving of protection. Sometimes we will allow some layers to be lifted, though not all will be removed so as to pad the pain that may be inevitable. But isn’t that what life’s about?

In order to feel great joy one must know pain/disappointment. A mother gives birth to her child that has grown within for many months. The birthing pain is followed by great joy that is irreplaceable. The full measure of love and joy is revealing through the process. So is the same with our feelings, that often pain is relative to the equal amount of love and joy that is achieved.

and thus the saying, “Practice makes perfect” - the more we practice at opening our hearts, the more we understand, and the less painful it actually is, for love runs deeper, and truer to the soul.

Ready for the Storm - song