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Is it better to have loved, that to never love at all?

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Is it better to have loved, than never to have loved at all? This is a fine question that was coined by someone long ago, and actually is from the following:

From Alfred Lord Tennyson’s poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

This truly is a wonderful craft of words, which several questions, or many thought arise. Is it better to expose ourselves to heartfelt pain, rather than to protect ourselves? My thoughts fall to the former, to expose and take risks rather than not truly feel. Life is so much more when it is lived, pain included.

Often we may hold onto our shroud that covers us. The thinly lit wall that protects us from others fully intruding into our innermost sanctum of love. Love is the hidden gem laying beneath an intricate weaving of protection. Sometimes we will allow some layers to be lifted, though not all will be removed so as to pad the pain that may be inevitable. But isn’t that what life’s about?

In order to feel great joy one must know pain/disappointment. A mother gives birth to her child that has grown within for many months. The birthing pain is followed by great joy that is irreplaceable. The full measure of love and joy is revealing through the process. So is the same with our feelings, that often pain is relative to the equal amount of love and joy that is achieved.

and thus the saying, “Practice makes perfect” – the more we practice at opening our hearts, the more we understand, and the less painful it actually is, for love runs deeper, and truer to the soul.

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